"I AM NOT GOOD AT IT BUT SOMEHOW LEARN FROM IT"
It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery why love sometimes grows and why love sometimes fails. You can analyze and look for reasons and causes but you will never do anymore than take out of life experience.
Love is more than the sum of the interest, attractions, and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its time, the coming of love must be taken unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.
Too often when love comes to people, they try to hold it to them, refusing to see that it is gift that freely moves away. When they fall out of love or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try to reclaim one love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was.
They want answers – there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them or they try to get their love change, thinking that if one small thing were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances. They blame each other. They try anything to give the meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.
If you find someone in love with you whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love deals with you and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys even if our lives and ways are very different.
If you fall in love with another that falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning you will know it in time but time itself will choose the moment.
Remember this. Keep it in your heart. You don’t choose love, love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes to your life. Feel the way it feels you to overflowing then reach out and give it to the person who brought it to you. Give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.
Love has its own time, its own reason and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it, or reason it to staying. If it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do. Be glad that it came to your life and live for a moment. If you keep out heart open, it will surely come again.
Keep smiling!
Excess: love comes to people who open their heart to love’s mystery. To those who hope although they’ve been disappointed. To those who will believe although they’ve been betrayed. To those who still love and need to be love although they’ve been hurt before.
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